When a guy breaks up with a girl over his fear of commitment; what should she prepare for?

My boyfriend of three years broke up with me a little over a month ago, at what I thought was high point in our relationship; we had never broken up before and were never an “on again off again” couple. Two weeks before we had spent the best weekend we had together, and he had left me a voicemail saying “you‘re amazing, generous, I couldn’t ask for more, I’m lucky to have you, and I love you.”

The only explanation he could give me for the break up was that he needed to figure out life on his own, and that he didn’t want to be in a relationship; he said his lifestyle choices wouldn’t change, and that he would continue not to party or try to hook-up with other girls.

Naturally I was confused, and contacted him asking what changed that changed his mind about us. He said nothing. I found this later to be very untrue. His friends contacted me informing me that he had been partying pretty hard before he left to study abroad, and that he had tried to hook up with girls while intoxicated, who’d rejected him.

He had asked me to stop contacting him after I tried, and I did. Since then he has contacted me every few days or so. Most recently, he was drunk, just trying to have a normal conversation as though nothing had happened. I figured since he was willing to put himself in the vulnerable state, that I would take advantage of it; I asked him what happened. His reasons were:
1. I am afraid of long-term committment, always have
2. I am afraid of the word “Love” it has always freaked me out
3. I am afraid to share my most personal life
4. I do not want to deal with your constant drama
5. my life is simpler now
6. i do not want to have to worry about having a gf abroad or back in school

He said they all “added up evenly.”

He’s not even the same person that I loved and had good times with, it seems.

Obviously I deserve better, and obviously he is going through some kind of self-struggle, but I want to prepare myself for what is most likely to occur. I have no intention of waiting for him, but I’m just curious of other’s thoughts.

When a guy breaks up with you out of fear of commitment, does that usually mean he will be back?

Why is it that when a guy break up with a girl she goes postal ?

this week I broke up with my girlfriend and I feel so good. She e-mails me hate mails and leave rude text messages on my phone and I just laugh whenever I read them. She even sent me one while she was in church a few minutes ago. She is not the first person to do this. The way I look at it, if you leave me, I can always get someone else. More fish in the sea, so what is the reason of going postal?

Ladies when a woman breaks up with you and she’s lost feelings for you, will she ever come around again?

I’m heartbroken, my woman left me, and later got back with an ex. I feel awful. I know logically, I’m supposed to move on and be strong. However, I’m really emotionally torn right now. I want her back but it may be too late. She‘s in a relationship now, I can’t intervene. Only thing I can think of us give it time for her to contact me. She turned completely cold on me as if I’m a stranger. I hurt her but I was honestly sorry. No, I didn’t cheat. I hurt her feelings about something I said. I honestly didn’t mean to. She said ever since then she couldn’t help but NOT think about it. Is this new relationship going to last long for her or will she come back to me? I don’t give a damn, if she‘s not into me now. When you love someone you‘ll be ready to come back regardless, but everyone is saying you‘re too good for her. Let her go and move on. Ladies what can a man do to ease the pain of a woman being hurt. I sent her a dozen roses and she told me, thanks, but no thanks. Time on my side?

Why is it then when your girlfriend breaks up with you she refuses to return your material possessions?

People especially ladies, the material in question were no gifts I would have stated otherwise

how do functioning alcoholics act in romantic relationships?

are they prone to having sex with hookers? do they not celebrate people’s birthdays, even their children? do they never apologize for anything and blames mistakes on other people? do they act loving one minute and cruel the next? i’ve recently been heartbroken by one and i’m just trying to make sense why? i’ve been blaming myself and i know i shouldn’t but i keep thinking it’s somehow my fault.

Alcoholics and relationships?

Would an alcoholic in denial be likely to blame their problems and stress on someone close to them instead of facing up to whats really going on with them, even if they care about the person? If so, then if the person left them be for a while to hopefully give them time to realise that these problems and stress still exist without this person in their life how long should it be before they come to this realisation and accept help?
Not a dating type relationship by the way, just friends but would have been more..

What is the appropriate relationship between an alcoholics anonymous member and their sponsor?

How often should one call or hang out with their sponsor?

Any advice on relationships with an alcoholic?

I have been involved with a man who is an alcoholic. He is a father of three beautiful girls and he owns his own construction business and he is 51 years old. I love him very much but his addiction is a huge problem. I am having trouble understanding the disease and I am always thinking it’s me when he becomes distant and shuts me out. I feel like I’m doing something wrong or I’m not good enough. Can anyone give me any insight on the behaviors and personality disorders of an alcoholic? Thanks for any help you can offer.

How can anybody take the Bible literally, if even two random people can’t agree on the most basic things?

Assuming there is a God, then the Bible is still written by humans. It’s still a sorta witness account of things that happened.

This morning my girlfriend and me saw a dog fall in the water. My girlfriend laughed and saw a joyful playing dog. I thought I saw fear in the dogs eyes. A simple, silly example of two people witnessing the exact same thing, yet seeing something completely different. And I’m talking about a simple dog here, not something extraordinary like a guy walking on water or something.

Besides that, when I write a love poem for my girlfriend, I probably exaggerate a lot. If her ex-boyfriend wrote that same poem, it would be entirely different. The Bible is written by people who adore their God, their Jesus. How can they ever be impartial? And how can we know for sure it’s the complete truth, when even two people can’t agree on what exactly they witness?

what should i do this is really bothering me…?

so this guy i liked (he said he liked me 2) we went out for 3 days and his friend passed me a note in class that said he was going to break up with me i asked him y and he said that he still loved his ex girlfriend but he said he liked me but he loved her..i don’t believe him but he insisted that i was on my myspace the other day and his friend (that told me that my now ex was going 2 break up with me) he was upset and his status was like a sad poem or something and my ex said that they would “find a new one” at the roller skating on Saturday by new one he meant a new girlfriend now he is going out with a slut.who is NOT his ex.

[help!!!]Girlfriend troubles, i overreacted about her going to a party @ saturday with her ex from years ago.?

on wedensday (tmoz) i am seeing her we had a fight and she said she wants space, she hurt me and i somehwat hurt her, i want to know if you guys think this would be good thing to do when we go and catchup and have a talk and talk things through to see if she wants to still go out with me.
i wrote her a poem about how beautiful she is and i’ve already showed her she said she was speechless and thinks she doesnt deserve it she really liked it, but i’ve got it on a card too i showed her on facebook.
the other thing i was thinking of doing was getting flowers/roses, ive never bought a surprise for my girlfriend and shes the type of girl that will really like it i think… i need some ideas to make her remember the guy that she fell in love with not the guy that shes been fighting with the last few days . im only 17 and she’s only 16 turning 17 so yeah, is there any suggestions you think i should do, where we should go etc.
thanks guys!! i really want it to work out with me and her because she’s the only girl ive ever loved.
please give me some answers on what to do, do u think taking a rose for her would be a bit too much after she asked for some space? please give me some ideas guys

My friend doesn’t believe he’s cheating on his girlfriend?

Okay, the story is a bit confusing, but I think you’ll get it.
So;
My friend, his name is Kash was dating me for three hours one day. His ex girlfriend, Ren which is my BFF, was complaining because they broke up. She said she felt empty without him, and she’s lonely at times. The reason they broke up was because Ren liked another guy named Jordan, more than Kash. But Ren realized Jordan didn’t like her so he rejected her. So, Rena told her friend Gianna, which was my friend too, she told her to tell Kash that Ren wanted to break up. So that’s the breakup story, this is the problem ;
When the three hours ended with me and Kash, I felt so sorry for Ren. So I had a plan to get them together. Kash wrote a 10 line apology, (I don’t know what for) and they loved eachother again. But Kash likes me more than Ren, and their couples.
This is what’s happening;
Ren and Kash are couples today, still. I feel SO jealous, but I need to get it together. Kash can’t break up with Ren because Ren wrote a birthday poem for Kash, and Kash loved it. And this is the really big problem;
Kash keeps on kissing me, and I can’t stop doing it. I feel so bad for Ren. SO bad… What should I do? How can I handle the secret?

I have a huge crush on my best friend who’s a girl but I don’t know what to say to her what do I say?

I just broke up with my first gf then a got a crush on my best friend when I saw her pass by,my best friend and I were friends since we were babies she was a year old than me I’m 11 she’s 12 already and she’s my next door neighbor as well then we had lot’s of fun when we were young but as soon as we got older those things were distant memories but then one that I’ll always remember was when we passed by each other under a vine plant which climbed on the side of my house on to the net connected to the terrace on my house then we just talked a bit then I saw a part of the plant then I started pulling it and the flowers and buds on it started falling then we laughed and went back inside are own houses but then she doesn’t visit me nor do I because I’m to shy to go there to her house then when I see her I can barely say anything else besides hi and then I feel like I’ll freeze up when I talk to her then my mom cut the top of the plant which made me sad a bit then I even gave her a gift last Xmas which was a hair clip that looked nice she liked it but she gave me a gift which was a mug although I still looking for it because when the kitchen was rearranged I can’t find it then I remembered last summer I gave her a love letter containing a poem which read “roses are red, violets are blue I think your more beautiful than the moon,your eyes are brighter than the stars above and I think your my one true love” then after a few months when my aunt and uncle came to visit I asked my mom what the plant was called cadena de amor then my aunt told me that was the Spanish name but it’s English name was the one that got me surprised she said it was chains of love,so what do I say?

what do you think of this poem??and guys how would u feel if a girl sent it to you?

I’m scared of trusting the happiness in fear it might slip away
It’s like the comedown of a high when it’s too good to last
So I try not to get to attached to the feeling
Knowing as soon as I start trusting it, it might slip away too fast

What we have is more than skin deep
So many in my life that have come and gone but I’m hoping that you’ll stay
And when you touch me never has it felt so comfortable
Try to find the right words to express how I feel but my thoughts get in the way

Looking into your eyes makes me want to give you all of me
But my inability to trust sometimes can get in the way
And I’m afraid that what I can give might not be enough
So unconsciously I can’t help but just push you away

I know you deserve the best and you’re in need of the love
So when I tell you ill always be here you know ill never quit
Everything you say to me makes me feel like I’m looking at a mirror
And whatever this may lead to I’m willing to commit

Our conversations reach beyond limit each time
They go deep but I only crave for them to go deeper
Just sit back and relax let your mind open up
Let me in on all your secrets and I promise to be your diary keeper

Being around you makes all my worries subside
You know me better than I know myself so show me what I need
I don’t have to put on a show cuz you see through it and into the center
Causing me to open up past wounds which only causes me to bleed

With so much chaos and worry in this crazy scary world
Just let me escape in that moment that we have with each other
Cuz sometimes life can be too much to walk through alone
And hope has finally returned once we found one another

Just embrace me, comfort me, and console me
Make me believe that everything will be all right
Show me how to feel again cuz numbness is the only feeling left
Promise you’ll still stay knowing with me every day is a new fight

Your touch feels so pure and that feeling is so brand new
Don’t mean to be so difficult but can’t help who I’ve become
I need the reassurance every day so please be patient
Slowly break the walls down and one day to you I will succumb

LYRICS/POEM I JUST FINISHED, WHATS YOUR HONEST OPINION?? points for best answer?

Intro
Look around and what can’t you see?
Simply me boring the background scene
Stereotypically,
They say a shy girl is quite,
Never ever to be seen,
I’m drained from this continuous routine

Verse 1
Trying to rise from the unknown
Despite my jealousy
There is someone here inside me
Treat me carefully
Respect my destiny
No more hiding who I am,
This is me.

Chorus
Accept me for who I am,
Allow me to reflect beneath a star
Its my time to be heard
Wonderful you can be
Special as I am,
Beware of who you are
There is no need to complain
Because we are all the same

Verse 2
Passion was robbed from me
and now I am taking it back,
Confidence,
This is my new direction
Expressing my affection
Revealed in perfection
I won’t hide from wondering
‘Bout whom I could be

Bridge
I’m glowing in the dark
No one turn the lights on
Get ready, get set, here I go..

Chorus
Accept me for who I am,
Allow me to reflect beneath a star
Its my time to be heard
Wonderful you can be
Special as I am,
Beware of who you are
There is no need to complain
Because we are all the same

Middle 8
Caution, an unexpected threat
More frightening than a thriller
Less tender than a thief
More violent than a killer
This is no prisoner,
Just another singer

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this space is not something im used to
but i think i really like it
i am free to do anything
with noone there to fight it

i missed this warm smile that i have apon my face
my crazy best friend
and cigarette drives to the most mysterious places

no rules to break
no strings attatched
i fly above the clouds
higher than you could ever reach
boy, and im never coming back down

my dreams are set in stone
and your no longer in my way
ive got big plans baby
but thanks for nothing anyway

yes i still think of you from time to time
but harsh bitter words are all that comes to mind
what did you expect with the orcestra of lies you sand
its time to face the music and take a step out into the rain

and as the summer breeze sets in
and the sun has kissed our faces
the girls and i are off to the wide open spaces

we will breeze by with the roof down
and retreat to the shore
the best years of my life start now
and im taking off ready to soar..

-me

Are These Some Good Advices On Getting Girls?

1) Be Honest with her! Not Fake people! Always Be Yourself!
2) Be A Good Listener, girls/ women like to talk about their feelings!
3) Have Confidence, girls/ women like that, they find it sexy!
4) Girls/ women like guys that can call them on phone, or text them saying hi, hows your day, or how you doing, etc. But don’t be too clingy though.
5) They like it when you say they’re beautiful or pretty, don’t say that they’re hot or sexy, they are NOT whores, remember that.
6) Girls/ women like guys that can cook for them.
7) They don’t love Pimps or Players! They like guys that have a car, so they can take them to anywhere they both would like to go and have fun or etc.
9) Don’t mention any of your exes, if you never had a girlfriend then your lucky that she won’t get jealous over anything.
10) They like their hands held, not grabbing their butts or boobs, even can hold onto their waist.
11) They like guys to be sensitive as also, you can still be tough as protective though.
12) Be specific about complimenting her!
13) Don’t be SO Obsessive, it turns them all Off Definitely!
14) If they’re PMSing, listen to whatever they say and agree, please don’t give advices at all, just give them something nice like chocolate.
15) Don’t mention about other girls in general, unless they are all friends, If they don’t know her, then she doesn’t want to hear anything about her.
16) Don’t tell what they want to wear, we just hate that.
17) They hate being led on.
18) If she is on a sleepover or something like that with her girl friends, if you wondering what they are talking about, don’t worry about it. It’s really about you.
19) If you catch her and her friends staring, it is really because they are spacing out, not because they really stare at you. Unless they are smiling when you notice. Either way, if they think you are hot, or they just like you.
20) They loved to be held while crying, it makes them feel loved and protected.
21) If you are unsure about something, just go for it. They will let you know what mistake you might do, just trust them.
21) If you like her, ask her out! Don’t be waiting for a right moment, they hate that!
22) They don’t read minds. The one thing they’ll say is that they have no idea what you‘re saying. No matter how confident they seem to be.
23) Don’t tell her that you Love her, unless you really mean it and positively feel it. If they don’t say it back, it’s just that they really want to mean it. so don’t say it in a snap, then it’ll show lack of commitment.
24) Try to dress up as nice as you can possibly do. If you are not dressed up and looked like you came out of bed, its a big turn off to girls/ women
25) They love it if you smell good, wear cologne. But don’t use too much. They don’t want to get choked on your bad smell when you are around with them.
26) They like it when you kiss their hands, cheek and especially forehead. Not just to shove your tongue down to their throats. We like to breath while kissing.
27) They like it when you‘re tender, but don’t take away your masculinity!
28) Do chivalrous things when they expect it. Except for holding the door for her.
29) This is a shocker, the first thing that girls/ women tend to go for looks first, but it doesn’t mean just looks, they also like to get to know if you have a good personality-character of yourself. Most girls do though.
30) Treat them as your princess. But also be the decision maker in relationships.
31) They like it when you ask them what they’re okay with physically, but don’t talk about it all the time.
32) They like it when you are nervous around them. They just think its very cute, instead of being Mr. Awesome Dude that he think he knows what to do.
33) Don’t play hard to get.
34) If you don’t call them, they’ll get distracted all day why you never called her and waste their time thinking about it and will jump into a conclusion that they won’t like you anymore.
35) They lose interest very quickly, when you never take action of leading them on.
36) They might seem to flirt a lot, but a girl always think about the one guy she really likes right before she goes to sleep.
37) When a girl/ women likes a guy, she subconsciously gives him a song that makes her think of you every time she listens or hears it, but if you do the same thing by giving her a song that you think about her also tell her what song reminds you of her.
38) When you are having a conversation with her, don’t look at her boobs or something, always look at her face for eye contact.
39) Don’t seem all desperate.
40) You should have a job to have money, so you can buy her things.
41) You should have a car, so you can take her to places.
42) They like it if you tell them how you feel about them, even if they are not interest in you in that way.
43) Stay in contact with
Even though I am myself as a guy that came up with this list on how to get a girl or women to like you!

GIRLS ANSWERS PLEASE (how often have you?) ?

i was wondering what “percentage” of girls take back someone they break up with? have you ever taken them back because you missed them? or for what reasons did you “take/get” them back?

also when girls break up with guys do they feel terrible just as the guy does? im not talking about just one particular situation im talking about ALL situations whenever the girl ends it. pretty much what happened to you and yourself emotionally?

im trying to make ways to talk to my ex-girlfriend (she broke up with me 1 week ago due to us wanting something different after high school), i know all girls are different but alot of them have similar feelings and if i can “connect” i sort of hope i can convince her that i really want her back. in a way, make her love for me, that i know are still there, overcome what is happening or has happened.

thank you in advance:)!
what i mean by “something different after high school”. im talking i want military and her college and she is breaking it one year before she graduates and i join because she is afraid of the fact that it MIGHT NOT work.

10 points Guys how would you take a girl adding you back on fb?

This guy I know didn’t treat me well. After 3-6 months I told him i didnt ant to be a girl on the side, nor on stand by and when he asked about sex I said can we wait until were a little more serious ( i had dating in mind) He dropped me the next day got into a relationship three weeks later and a month later texts me saying he wants to start talking and that he is sorry. But I removed him on fb to move on. and I am at that place where I can be friends with him. Like I wouldn’t be talking to him just adding him back so things can go back to normal our last conversation was him telling me he wanted to start tlaking again and that I thought it was best we stop talking for now. he said he was sorry that he messed things up and I said if he wanted to talk I wanted it to be in person. but he never got back to me he just said I’m going to the army maybe in time I don’t know how good I’ll be. I said it was up to him but he never got back to me.

i not trying to swoop in. I just want to be friends and move on. what do you think he will read it as.. like I’m not trying to be like hey remember me? I’m just trying to feel better.

What do you think he will take it as?

How do you get over a girl that you left, but still love and she wont take you back?

i messed up but she wont let me back in, not even to explain or appologize. what do i do?

How Can i Get An Ex Girlfriend Back?

Well Its Simple But Complicated At The Same Time I Used To Love Her To Pieces She Was Sort Of My First Girlfriend But During One Point Or another during The Past year I Just Felt Like I didn’t Loved Her No More It Was Just a Weird Feeling Cause She Was Still Really In loved With Me So I Had To break Up With Her Cause It Cant be Nothing Serious Without Love From both Sides Of The Relationship Or Would You Be With Someone You Dont Love no More?

So Time Passed And I’m Just Falling For Her Again But The Way We Broke up Wasn’t The Most Sweet And Careful To Say It That Way… So During a Time She Almost Hated Me And After So Anyways now We Are Just Like Neutral Sometimes and Text her And Say Hi And Everything But Now She has a Boyfriend But I Dont Know How He Looks Like Or Anything…

So My doubts Are:

Is It Anyways to Become Friends Again In a Slow Calmed Way (discretely)?

And If There Is I Dunno How?

i Would Really Like a Professional Or good Answer, if Your Going To Say Something silly Or Dumb Please Dont say Anything At All, And If you Were a Girl i Would Really Appreciate Your Point Of View bout The Facts Like Is It There a Chance To Get Her Back?

Thanks And Sorry For Taking So Long In Explaining Everything
And Well i Forgot to Write That no im not Going To Be Wanting her Back If im going To Break Up Again That Is a Really Stupid Thing To Do…
ROFL!! Sorry For So Many Capitalization in The Paragraphs xD

Girlfriend & ex-boyfriend still in touch – is it ok?

Should I be jealous about my girlfriend of 4 years (been living together for 3 years) starting to talk to her ex-boyfriend (from 5 years ago) again on a semi-regular basis behind my back? When we first got together, long ago, there was some awkwardness about him, and she knew I didn’t really like when she talked to him… The whole time we have been together they’ve talked onced or twice a year — but over the last 4 months it’s been much more regular. He’s many hours away, so I know she‘s not cheating on me, but it does make me uncomfortable. But I don’t want to bring it up and make problems if that’s normal…it just seems odd to me though, since I have no desire to talk to my ex-girlfriends.

Curious about others situations?

Guys-do you mind your long-standing girlfriend talking to ex ‘s? Do you say anything if so? If they don’t, would you mind if they did? If they do, how do you feel

Girls-do you stay in touch? Is your partner jealous? Is it ok for him to be?

Boyfriend talks about ex girlfriend sometimes.?

My boyfriend was dating a girl for about a year before me, and they had a fairly serious relationship. Me and him have been dating about 3 months but were great friends before, and I think I am liking him more everytime I’m with him. The only problem is that he talks about his ex girlfriend. He brings her up in conversation and kind of compares me to her. Yesterday we were talking about sex and he brought her up and said about how he uses condoms all the time. He also went into his ex havings scares. He asked how many times did I do it with previous exes. I joked and said what I don’t keep a scoreboard. Than He ended up saying something that got me mad but I didn’t tell him when he said it “oh we did it alot” . I confronted him I told him that’s not even right I wouldn’t say something like that to you even after he asked how many times did I do it with the previous exes. He was like but your better anyways and (no we haven’t had sex but we do other things that he really enjoys) tells me I’m the best girlfriend he’s had. He started telling me I was just joking with you about what I said but sometimes most of what people joke about is the truth. I remember him telling me that she was uptight about the sex and that he would get bored. He mentioned this too but a long time. Now his ex wants him back but he told her he has a girlfriend and that he really likes me. It really bothers me though that he talks about her sometimes. I try to tune it out or pretty much say ok or alright so he can just stop. He acts like he he’s completely devoted to me and is a great guy. What can I say to him so I don’t seem jealous because I’m not it just gets annoying to hear about it. I’m not at all jealous I even told him if he wanted to be friends with her it was fine with me and he appreciated that although they are not friends. What should I do to make him stop and why does he do this?
They were broke 1 year before he got with me.

My ex girlfriend has been calling me drunk after we broke up 2 months ago, How can I win her back?

My ex girlfriend calls me drunk after nearly 2 months since she broke up with me, help!?
Last weekend my ex calls me (probably drunk) 3 times & once from her friend’s phone at 3am on Saturday night/sunday morning (6th march).

My phone was on silent so I didn’t pick up.

It got me thinking why she had called… I thought about ringing her the next day but didn’t want to come across as needy

So I waited until Friday where I was 90% going to call but refused the urge. It got until 2am Friday night / Saturday morning & she called me. I had just woke for some reason anyway so I answered and played it as cool I could considering how shocked i was.

She was drunk and was asking why I didn’t answer or call back from last week… I made up that I didn’t know she‘d called. She was saying things like ‘i’ve missed you’ and ‘i love you’ and saying ‘we need to sort it out’ and ‘we love each other’ she said she got a really good pay rise at work and she wanted share the good times with, she was going on and on and saying we can sort it out and I should move down south and we can get a flat together, then she was saying dirty stuff trying to entice me in.

It all made me feel very happy so I was trying to play it so cool but really didn’t know what to say, I tried to make it out like I was shocked and teased her about being drunk, she was asking things like ‘do you miss me’ which I replied ‘at times’, she also asked if I still love her I said ‘there’s a little bit in my heart somewhere’

So it carried on with her blabbering away & she was asking if we should meet up, I acted like I wasn’t sure about it, I tried to play it cool but in my head I knew I wanted to and can’t help but think it came across that I wanted to deep inside as I was saying ‘maybe’ and then ‘well i suppose we could’.

So she called me a few times that night. she was asking me if i had a girlfriend & why i didn’t call back last week again, then she popped up with ‘I’ve got a boyfriend but I wanna work it out with you’ (I’m pretty sure her BF is her ex who I think she left me for).

I lost my cool only a little, I said ‘what, you’ve got a boyfriend, I can’t believe your telling me this after ringing and saying all of this’ and she was then saying she could come up tomorrow in her car i was saying ‘but you’ve got a boyfriend… i only want u to come up if you’re 100% sure ‘ anyway we carried on speaking about general stuff then I said we’ll speak in the morning about it…

So in the morning it was getting till about 12 o’clock so I thought I’d call and test the water a little bit & also because she hadn’t called yet & I was thinking she would leave it too late to come down (i really wish I hadn’t called even it meant no contact all day)

So i was speaking with her, she still seemed warm & a little embarrassed, she didn’t drop the ‘i love u’ or any of the more serious stuff, she was saying that she missed me etc and a bit more sexual stuff… i teased her a little about the stuff she was saying and my intuition tells me this kind of gave her a reality check about what she‘s done and has probably made her confused as how its come off on me & maybe gave her second thoughts… I asked if she was coming down… she said she didn’t know as it’s so far away and she also said her boyfriend will be thinking where am I… (this really angered me, the way she can just switch me on & off) but I played it as cool as I could & said to call later when she‘s not at her friends…

So we didn’t speak all day until 10.30pm when i initiated some dirty messages which finishes when she sends “your so dirty danny, i’ve just *** haha’, I was sending these texts trying to come across as the fun guy again but I’m not sure if I should of just backed off….

I don’t know what she wants… I don’t know how I should play this from now on… I get the impression she called this week as she was desperate for me because she was thinking i’ve gone away and not going to be there for her when things are bad with her boyfriend,

Even though I was trying to play it so cool, I can’t help but think she has it in her head now that she can have me if she wants me… I feel i could of played the cat & mouse game a little bit better & I still do feel like i’m right in the game but I need to come across as a harder catch again…

When and if we next speak I want to come across a lot harder and I think I need to lay a few boundaries to show her I am no push over

I was thinking of maybe sending a text like:

Look i don’t think this is going work out between us, you’ve got a boyfriend, you don’t know what you want, i think we should call it quits and get on with our lives. We had fun but i just don&

What to get your girlfriend for Christmas (GIRLS PLEASE)?

I have a few ideas in mind such as-
Getting her own little Christmas tree and putting lots of little presents underneath (Up to 10 small cool things).
She likes sewing so maybe a Book on it and materials. A photo of us with a cheesy poem (It’ll come back to bite me but it’ll make her happy).

Are there any other ideas that people could help me with. She’s not into chocolate/lollies and thinks flowers are a waste of money so just in case you were thinking.
Thank you for your responses but I have brought her enough jewellery.

Purfume is a good idea thanks!

I did some writing and I need your opinion?

Their not exactly poems but just some writing I did. Plz give me your honest answer because Im not giving the 10 points to the best compliment I get but to the most honest answer.

Why is it that I broke up with you because I said I was over you but every time I see you and your new girlfriend together I get that green monster on my back called jealosy.

Why is it that you’ve moved on and I haven’t. Your a figure and Im a shadow. Didnt we both decide that us not being together was for the best. Wait I forgot, you decided that and I pretended to agree.

Sticks and stones might break my bones but words will break my soul. Words cut me deeper than any knife can. Words controle me because they matter. Sticks and stones scar my skin but words scar my heart

Parents wonder why their kids tune them out. Its because when we mess up they remind us that we are failing instead of reminding us that we can succeed.
Does the fact that I prefer a black boyfriend over a white one mean Im a racist? Does the fact that I adapt to any social group mean Im fake? Does the fact that I’ve never lost controle mean Im sane?/ Does the fact that I gossip make me a back stabber? Does the fact that I go to church make me holy?
The last one I did I wanted to show that the saying actions speak louder than words is wrong…You have to know whats in someones heart to really know them
O and its not one poem every different paragraph is a different poem

Are my poems good enough for a contest?

Ok, all of the poems that I write are about my ex-boyfriend who broke up with me then got back together with his other ex girlfriend the next day.

You played with my emotions
I let you into my heart
But now all of these words that you’re making me hear
Is tearing me apart
Thank you for making me this way
Thank you for leaving me a mess
So while you pretend that everything’s ok
And get on with your life day by day
I’ll be nothing but a memory
That’s washed out to sea
Like all of the others before me

Poem 2

Even though you may not see it
I’m just trying to make this work
But pretending that I’m not even there
Isn’t going to heal this hurt
I’m sorry that it’s come to this
And I’m sorry that you can’t see
but i’m not even going to try being with you
If it means I can’t be me

Poem three

You were different
So it seemed
Until the water flooded this wonderful dream
And made me realize what you mean
But insted of being bitter
And crashing your truck
I’m going to sit back in silence
And watch you self destruct.

Do you think that any of them are good? What one is your favorite? Thanks!!

How do I get over this dilema with my step brother?

My dad got remarried and the woman had a son named Angel who is a sixteen year old jock (football, baseball, basketball, and wrestling). I am a music lover and in a band. He’s probably the biggest person I’ve ever seen (he’s about 6′ 4” and built like a muscle tank). He beats me up and picks on me. It’s almost like his life’s purpose is to make my life a living hell. So, my girlfriend often times writes poems and I like reading them. They are in these composition books on her bookshelf in her room. One day she was in the bathroom and I was sitting on her bed and I leaned back and I felt something against my neck. It read ‘Volume 3: Summer 14′. So because it looked exactly like one of her poem books I flipped to the middle of the book and started reading. It was a narrative poem in third person using only the pronouns he she him her as the charecters. I thought at first it was just a pornagraphic poem she’d written about two kids at summer camp sneaking out after curfew to meet up at the boat house to get freaky for the girl’s first time. It was very detailed. Then I read all the way through and found out those kids were Angel (my spawn of the devil stepbrother) and Elli (my girlfriend since we were fifteen we’re now all seventeen). My girlfriend found me reading it and turned red. She started rambling then she tore the book out of my hands and threw it into the closet. I asked her about it and she explained that during summer camp she met this guy who seemed really nice. However it turned out he was an asshole who used her up and then didn’t want to talk to her for the remaining time at camp. So then I asked her the world’s stupidest question and I don’t know why I could slap myself. Who was better? To which she bit her lip and asked me if I really wanted to know. To which i didn’t take the hint and of course wanted to know. So of course she responded, “Well, he was better and bigger. Very big. But I love you more so it’s always better with you because you’re special to me.” Then later that week my girlfriend came over to my house for the first time ever since we’ve been going out and Angel and his buddies saw her and they start snickering. Then when she leaves Angel screams, “Dude I banged your girlfriends brains out when I was fourteen. Dang she a sluuuut.” I didn’t let him see that it got to me and instead said, “Well, it mustn’t have been that great or else she’d still be with you instead wouldn’t she.” And some of his friends snicker. However I know the truth that she thinks he’s bigger and the fact that he’s larger than me. I can’t get it out of my head. I keep having this nightmare where Angel is having sex with my girlfriend on my bed while I’m strapped to a chair watching. Then he’ll **** in her so much it’ll pour out onto my bed sheets. I can’t even sleep on my own bed anymore I sleep on the ground because I keep waking up thinking I’m lying in a mix of Angel’s sperm and Elli’s vaginal juices. Is there anyway to stop all of this stuff passing through my head and stop these dreams from happening.

when will the season 2 of 16 & Pregnant start?

Has anyone heard when the 2nd season of 16 and pregnant will start. I know there is Teen Mom, but they are doing another season of 16 & Pregnant as well, anyone know when it will air?

What is the song on this episode of 16&pregnant?

Can someone tell me the name of the song at the end of 16 & Pregnant: James and Makai? My gf wants to know and so do I. Please help. Its the very last song played
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How do they pick the teen moms for 16&pregnant?

Do they have to sign up or something? Cause that would be stupid, making wannabe teen moms really want to get pregnant and also promising them money. Anyways, how do they pick?

And I’m not asking cause I want to do it cause I never want kids in my whole life cause I know how much work my baby bro is and I just couldn’t do it no matter what.

how can i get my sister on 16 and pregnant?

My sister is 16 and prego and really wants to be on that show 16&pregnant on MTV.
how can she sign up or whatever?
links please.

Do You Think He Really Loved Me? Do You Think I Should Fight Back For Him?

He was my 1st bf and we lasted 2 weeks it was last year, August 7th to August 21, 2009. His name is Garrett.
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He was very nice to me, never mistreated me, & always tried to show me that he adored me by trying to kiss me & hug me but I pushed him away. I would always hurt him by punching him or pinching him cause I didn’t know what to do, I don’t know why I did such stupid things. We would aways meet up afterskool, go someplaces near where he lives, hang out a while, then we woud have to go home. As soon as we both got home, he would send me a msg through Myspace asking me if I got to my place safely. He always cared for how I was. We always talked through myspace and when we would walk together, we would hold hands and he would say ‘Hold My Hand Cuz Lil Kids Can’t CrossThe Street On Their Own’ & he would grab my hand. That was his excuse to be able to hold my hand. Let’d go back to the 2nd day we met around which was on a Sunday at 1am, last year (yeah, 1am cuz he and his sis came to my place to hang out with my older brother) well, we were watching a movie in a dark room only lighted by the light on the tv. We all played around, we had a couch pillow fight and after we finished we all calmed down and I was on one couch sitting with him and my bro was on the other couch sitting with his sister. Well, he came next to me and put a pillow on my lap and layed his head on it. He started listening to music and asked me questions. I took his iPod away and I was looking through what he had. Then he took ahold of my hand and we held hands for a very long time, prolly more than an hour or 2. I told him if he could let gocause I had to go use the bathroom. I came out and sat back on the couch & he got comfortable again and we held hands for more time. We finally decided to lay down. I dont know which of us moved the foot rest close to the couch. Well, I took the couch and he took the foot rest & we held hands again. We only ‘knew’ eachother for like 4 hours and we were like already in love with eachother. A few hours later around 5am he asked me ‘What Would Your Brothers Do If You Had
A Bf?!’ I told him that I didn’t know. The 1st thing that came to my mind was ‘He Wants To Be
My Boyfriend’ >_< then we fell asleep. Later on that sunday at 8pm he had to go home and I was super sad cuz he was leaving. Some other day, we hung out afterskool & I bit his cheek
and his back too.Well, we went to hang out on some grassy place & I put some grass in my mouth.
We were sitting then he just pushed me on the grass and I lay there looking at him. He kissed my
cheek & he said that he would kiss me on my lips if I didnt spit it out. I took it out and he never
kissed me on my lips, an opportunity that was missed. He then walked me halfway or all the way to
the bus stop and that day I think I gave him my ID, he stole a button, & he stole my neckalace w/
a key on it. He broke up with me the next day. I was super depressed. He said he was sorry. I later found out from my brothers that he said he still like the girl he had a crush on which he met about a year b4 me. He said he never gave up on liking her even though he told me that he forgot about her. He told me she was a waste of time and that he only wanted to be with me. This year on January my friend kindly asked him if he still liked me cuz i still did & he said that he still sorta does but that I would have to try so hard to conquer his heart cuz he the other girl had his heart. My brothers told me that, that girl said that she only wants to be his friend & nothing more because she doesn’t like him the way he likes her. He told me that whenever it was that he & I broke up that he would still talk to me but he totally forgot about me and doesn’t talk to me at all, only through Myspace and when he comes to hang out with my brothers he never says hi or bye and when I tried talking to him he just ignores me, in front of my brothers and that embarrases me in front of my brothers.
He has not had a gf since he left me & i’ve had 2 bfs since he left me but like after 2 months, lasted 1 month with the 2nd and 1 week and 4 days with the 3rd while I was in Mexico. Oh yeah & I have not been kissed on my lips, not yet, Garrett was the 1st to kiss me the closest which was on my cheek. & while I was with the 2nd one I always thought about the 1st and when I was with the 3rd, I didn’t think of the 1st till I got back to CA.

what to do when your boyfriend talks to his coworker who is a girl you dislike after asking him not to?

she texted me asking if me and him are a serious couple, which we are. id ont know how she got my #. anyways she was texing him saying to bad we cant hang out because you have a gf and all this stuff. i told her not to text him and she continued to. and i asked him not to text her and he still did. i took her number out of his phone and he put it back in there. so we had a huge fight and i told him how she asked me if me and him were serious and we had a fight about it.he took her phone number out of his phone and i made him promise not to talk to her but i dont think he took me serious. i dont know what to do.
oo and he no longer works with her.

I got into a fight at school today?

okay, so i go to your typical high school.
drama, b*tches, liars, blah blah blah
well these 3 popular juniors (im a junior also) were picking on this well..nerdy girl (not to sound mean or bitchyy). shes awkward and anti social. in study hall, they were calling the girl an asscrack..an anti social b*tch, and saying that the girl didnt talk to anyone because she thought the was better than us. i think the popular girls started picking on the nerdy girl because she had made comments saying that she wasn’t supposed to be in this school and that she was going to go to a higher class HS. nothing wrong with that right? coincedantally, we all ride the same bus. the popular girls and the nerdy girl sat way in the back of the bus and they were just tormenting the girl..calling her all sorts of names that i think are innappropriate even for this site. i was sitting a couple seats in front of them, and i walked and went to the girls and said something like ‘you all need to leave jessica (the nerd girl) alone ’cause she did nothing to you all and you all are acting like some lame b*tches’. the popular girls stood up and one of them got all in my face saying all kinds of stuff like how i should go back to mexico (i’m latina though) and calling me names now. when i made a really snappy comeback, one of the girls grabbed me by the hair and started smacking me on the bus several times. we were all just shouting and cursing too. the bus driver didn’t even pull over (my ma reported her for that) and she just screamed ‘stop fighting, stop fighting’ but the girls wanted to continue to fight. in SELF DEFENSE, i punched the main girl who came at me first several times and tried kicking her to get her the hell away from me. that didnt work and so my best friend angie came over to help me. so now we were fighting 2 on 3, and everyone got up out of their seats and started crowding around the fight. me and angie were punching them square in the face, kicking them and such to try and get them away from us. but they just wouldnt back off, and the bus driver was just glancing and screaming through the mirror and just wouldnt pull over. then a boy whom i have a crush on came and broke up the fight. i was stupid enough to go back to the seat i was in before (near the girls i was fighting). after i thought everything settled down, one of the girls came over, pulled me by my hair out of the seat, knocked me down onto the bus aisle, and started punching me all in the face. i defended myself of course and came at her twice as hard. once she got off of me, i viciously came at her andn started scratching, punching, and kicking. FINALLY the bus driver pulled over, and she broke up the fight. she said she had the right to throw one of us off the bus, and she threw me off because when she happened to come over, i was the attacker. so i walked home from a busy road and told my mother about the incident. she called the school and i am not to return until the girl and i met with the principal on monday. our punishments are to be announced there. do you think its fair that everyone is making it seem like I’M the attacker? and that I started it? oh and what are your miscellaneous comments about the fight? did i do anything wrong?

oh and im 16 years old.

How do you get your dads gold digging girl friend to go away?

Ok, My dad is 65 years old, he has quite a bit of money and he is dating around. he met this girl when she was 18 and she seemed nice and all, one day she started asking my dad for various amounts of money to spend, which he didn’t have a problem with. Then all of a sudden she wanted to move in with him, my dad asked what we thought and we told him it was a bad idea. So he went and told her no, she cannot move in with him. She was very upset and said she wanted to come over and talk to him, which he was fine with so he agreed. When she came over she had all her clothes packed into bags. She really just moved herself in. My dad was upset at first but he has learned to live with it. Then it came to the part where she would take his car and go visit her “parents” for days on end and not return it back until my dad calls her and tells her she has to bring it back. Then after a little while longer she takes him to victoria’s secret and buys her about $400 dollars worth of clothes, then she proceeds to ask him for a couple thousand so she could go down to Atlantic city for the weekend with her friends.
After all this time with me and my sister telling him that there is no way an 18 year old girl, dint get me wrong shes really pretty but still, would just fall in love with him out of the blue. Especially when she is asking for all this money.
Well he finally told her no, and she got really upset, and it started a fight and she went back down to her “parents” house. When she came back my dad finally had the right idea in telling her to pack her stuff up and move out, but she got really upset over that and said that she really loves him and stuff like that, and that she would leave some stuff of hers in a closet just in case she comes back.
And that leads us to today’s issue, after my dad told her to leave and take all her stuff. She moved herself back in and my dad seems to be defending her being there. Personally i think its just because he doesn’t have the courage to tell her to leave but she is still there and she keeps asking him for money and he doesn’t realize shes just after his money. Please at least give me some idea on how to take care of this major issue we are having.

Should I go UVA or William & Mary to major in computer science?

I have gotten into both William & Mary and the University of Virginia, however I am having a difficult time deciding which school to attend. I plan on majoring in computer science, a major both schools have, but I do not know where to go. Both are research schools, but UVA is more engineering oriented, while WM just has a computer science program. Is anyone currently in either of these computer science programs and can give advice as to why they chose that school or what they like or dislike about the program?
Thanks

what is another college thats near williamsburg besides william & mary?

i want to go to colloege near williamsburg and i don’t know what else is close besides william & mary(well thats in williamsburg).maybe odu or norfolk university but it got to be in a good area.

What are the requirements for the College of William & Mary?

I’m still a junior in high school, one semester of my transcript is really substandard, but my test scores are very high and I’m currently in 3 AP classes (with good references from my teachers) and I am striving to make at least a 3.9GPA this year and next year but I was wondering if I had a chance to make it to any sort of nice college rather than a community college?

Should I go to the College of William & Mary, ASU, or UNC Chapel Hill?

I have been accepted these schools, and am trying to decide which one to attend (I will likely be majoring in linguistics). Just curious about what people think of them.