Your Questions About How To Make Up With A Girl After A Fight

Did I make a mistake by breaking up with my boyfriend?

Okay so i’m 17 and I dated this guy that is a friend of a friend that lives about an hour from where i live. I have known him for over a year. We dated long distance for about 7 months but only talked and saw each other like half of that time. So it was tough, I was one of those people that thought I wouldn’t have a hard time handling a long distance relationship but I was wrong. I was really happy at first but after a while we would go weeks without talking or seeing each other and it started to bug me. Every time we did get to see each other it like we were just friends hanging out we never even got to have a real first kiss. I know he loves me and I love him and he was only respecting me by taking things slow but I couldn’t help but feel like our relationship was lacking something when i’d go to school and see all the boyfriends walk their girls to class and hug and kiss goodbye. This troubled me on and off for a while once I broke up with him for the same reason but it only lasted a day before we got back together over the phone. Now I’ve done it again only this time its been a little over a month since I broke up with him and I haven’t heard from him since. I’m starting to remember all the good things like how he always thought I was the most beautiful girl even after being drenched in a water balloon fight and I miss him. I’m wondering if this is just because I miss my friend or was it really to drastic of a move just to up and break up with him? I told him we would still be friends but i’ve been to afraid to call him. does anyone have any insight?

fighting for the girl i love after my emotions stopped our relationship… good idea?

basiclly… my emotions of feeling paranoid and depressed ruined our relationship. she is the girl of my dreams and i cant imagen life without her. i want to get back together with her and i want her back in my life. i have changed though to a happier person that no longer takes life to seriously.

im going to see her tomorrow after she ends work, all dressed up with flowers, a bear saying i love you and a love letter that i will read to her. the letter says:-

You will never understand truly how strongly I felt when I set my eyes upon you….your beauty overwhelmed me as I tried to catch my breath… your kindness and warm heart always made me feel welcome in you life and every time I saw you my heart skipped a beat.

Every time I looked into your eyes all I could see was a loving, peaceful and a bright light which I know is coming from your soul because (her name), you have changed my life. Before I knew you as a friend, I was alone in the world. I didn’t have anyone I could call a friend and I had no one to talk to. I spent every day alone. But then I saw you, and the light from your soul made me a better person. You showed me that being alone is stupid and pointless. The feelings I have had for you have never changed from day one of me loving you.

I remember all the good times you and me have had. The time we went to France and went in that big French market, the French pizza that was disgusting but we still laughed, those poor animals in the pet shop that looked unhappy and we cared for them. Another time, my birthday. We had our first date; you got me mushrooms and random present that I will never forget. Finally, the times we kissed and hugged, it was like a dream and I never wanted to wake up. There are so many good memory I can’t say the all but every day with you was a happy time also.

I’m sorry about the past. If I could go back in time I would change it so none of this would ever have happened. I understand your reasons for wanting to get over me but these feeling I have for you will never change. They light you shone on me will always be here in my heart where you will also be forever. Even now you are making my life better. You have now shown me not to take life so seriously, to have fun and to be me, and now without you… I am nothing.

I guess what I’m trying to say is…I love you, I always have and I always will, I cant bare the thought of living without you because you ARE the reason I’m alive…please forgive whatever I have done in the past, I can prove to you and show you what you truly mean to me…if I could hand the world over to you I would do it in a flash….I’m so in love with you (her name)…please…give me another chance.

i will read this to get and give her the flowers and bear i got today.

is this a good idea because she told me that she still loves me

Good books to read for a 14 year old girl?

So, I’m trying to find some good books to read. I’m 14, and I’m really specific about books. I really liked Before I Fall, Pretty Little Liars Series, Angus Thongs and Full-frontal Snogging, and Thirteen Reasons Why. I don’t usually like fantasy books, but I thought The Hunger Games was amazing. I like the author to have a vocabulary and the storyline to have meaning in it, but I also don’t want it to be boring. For instance, I read the book “Speak” which I thought was really well written and had a lot of power in it, however, I didn’t enjoy it as much because it went at such a slow pace without much happening. I want to read a page turner.

So yeah! I’m not looking for the person that has the most answers…I’d rather read one REALLY good book than fifty ‘okay’ ones. Thanks for any of the recommends.

P.s. I read Harry Potter series & Twilight series, so don’t recommend those. I also read books by Sara Dessen… and I liked how real her characters were/ the romance between her characters, but I didn’t like how all her books go the same way: girl has problem, girl meets boy, girl falls in love with boy, girl has fight with boy, girl makes up with boy, girl‘s accepts/fixes her problem and lives happily ever after with boy. So don’t recommend those either. Thanks!

What should I do with this girl and the fight we are in? should we be friends again or go our seperate ways?

Okay flashback to September of last year. I had a crush on this one girl. We were like the best of friends but I wanted it to be more. We hung out and stuff like dating. BUt it really was just two friends hanging out. So basicilly a non romantic date. (It’s hard to explain). The reason I never told her was because she had told be before she wasnt rady to date. So I waited until she was ready. In Febuary she asked if I liked her. I thought if I said yes and she wasn’t ready It would ruin us being friends. I didn’t say no. I said “I’d perfer not to say”. She asked again in March and she DEMANDED a straight answer or she’d never speak to me again. So I said yes. ASadly, she didn’t like me back. But we continued to be friends. Until late May. Around the time of April I had gotten over her and gotten a new girlfriend. I told my friend whom i liked about her a couple times. She had gotten annoyed by it and started acting rudly to me. I thought it was funny so i kept talking about her anyway. (immature I know. I’ve grown and I’ve learned.). One day for no reason though she started calling me worthless and stuff like that. Another time i tried to talk to my other friend while she, the girl i used to like, was sitting with us at lunch. It wasn’t about my girlfriend or nothing. Just about a tv show or something. My old crush goes “Oh my god. Do you ever shut up!!!???!!!” That pissed me off. So i started cussin her out. Tellin her she’s a rude *** B#tch. Then I left the table. I heard about her one day talkin stuff about me. Saying stuff like how “I wanted her virginity” and stuff like that. So i confronted her about it and stuff and after that I knew it was done. A week later she writes me a note claiming I don’t know how to treat women (which is COMPLETLY false. I’d never cheat. Never have either. I put girls I like on a pedistill and treat them like royalty. So apperently standing up for myself is a crime.). It also ended our friendship (little late) and don’t talk to her and no HARM will come my way. So summer came. I hadn’t spoken to her or nothing. In September I came back to school. I didn’t sit with my friend who sat with my old crush for a month. I talked to my friend. But didn’t sit with em cuz my olod crush AKA NEW ENEMY WAS THERE. Finally I sat with my friend. My enemy says HI JUSTIN. I KNOW YOU HATE ME. YOU DON’T HAVE TO TALK TO ME IF YOU DON’T WANT TO trying to make me feel guilty. I said SHUT UP. I DON’T FEEL GUILTY. I’M JUST HERE FOR LUNCH. I couldn’t said it nicer. But i had so much anger still. That was the last of our blowout.

My faults are I could of not led on to a fight not worth fighting and handled certain things more maturely. So don’t think this is a OH WOE IS ME kind of thing. She has faults too though. I’m saying we both could of did this differently.

(present day)
We are on better terms. The problem is I’m just an aquaintenance of hers now. I don’t fight but I don’t hang with her. But she thinks I’m her friend again cuz she trys to talk to me and crack a joke. Friendly stuff. But i don’t want to be her complete friend again because of this mess. So should I or no? What should I do?

Also we are too different now. Her main thing is ANIME. It’s literally her whole life. My life is music (pop). But i also have realistic goals than being a male pop and rock star like being an english teacher. More real. I have other things to do. Anime is ALL she does. she doesn’t care bout her future. Just Anime.
thanxs jeni but I’m not obsessing. She just acts like she’s my friend again and I don’t wanna be her friend since the huge fight we had. So I’m basicilly asking is it wrong to not forgive and forget in this circumstance.

What can I do to make sure I’m not a 1 night stand with this girl?

This girl broke up with her boyfriend on friday. I hadn’t been close to this girl up until about a month ago, when I’d comforted her and walked her home after yet another fight with her boyfriend, who’d ditched her in the middle of nowhere at 3 am and ignored her calls asking how to get home. Since then we’ve been getting closer every week, and the same night she broke up with her boyfriend she continuously hovered around me. She never flirted, didn’t start anything, but the second I grabbed her hand she started twining fingers and scooting closer.

Her roommates (who evidently all love me) tried to get me to hook up with her that night. Instead we just ended up cuddling on her bed the entire night. The next day she told me she’d wanted to make out so bad that night but was still too upset and not in the right state of mind for it, and asked if I had wanted to as well. I told her of course, and she promised we’d try it out this weekend (we both work full time during the week).

So now I’m confused as to what I should be doing the next time I see her. It’s obvious she at least wants a 1 night stand thing… but I want to actually be in a relationship with her. She’s said multiple times I’m much too nice to her, and her roommates have tried to get us together for over a week now, but I don’t want to go into it if she’s just looking for a rebound f*ck?